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What you feel about what you feel is a meta feeling. And it makes all the difference in whether or not you are able to release your feelings and complete the stress cycle.
Our meta feelings are primarily shaped in our attachment relationships, though they are also influenced by peers and the greater culture.
The best way to get yourself through tough times is to let yourself feel the emotions related to it and let go of any feelings about having those initial feelings. You feel. We all do. Let it out. With caring people. Feel relief.
In this video, you'll learn about self-gaslighting, which is learned from attachment relationships where someone taught you to constantly question your body, reactions, and views on reality, and the importance of acknowledging the trauma and learning to trust your own needs.
The myth that comforting your child will "spoil" them is not only emotionally harmful but also creates an altered brain state that leads to higher levels of stress and mental illness in adulthood, giving them compassion and comfort will only help them develop a healthier brain function.
Discover evidence-based techniques for helping children process traumatic events in a healthy way, including encouraging them to tell their story and avoiding avoidance, with guidance from expert Dr. Dan Siegel and clinical experience.