Welcome to Attachment Nerd

Hello and welcome! I'm Eli.

Nothing in life matters to us more than our close relationships.

Keeping those relationships secure + connected isn't always easy.

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With a career spanning 17 years, I've devoted my life to the intricate art and science of attachment relationships.

My mission is simple: to share this invaluable knowledge with you.


  • Education: BA in Arts from the University of Colorado, Master's Degree in Counseling Psychology. I'm a Licensed Professional Counselor in the State of Colorado
  • Clinical Experience: Over the years, I've guided individuals through the healing process from relational traumas, including a two-year stint in South Korea.
  • Teaching: I've served as a faculty member at The Denver Family Institute, where I specialized in courses on trauma treatment through a systemic lens. Additionally, I continue to educate both practitioners and individuals via Attachment Lab courses and my immersive in-person retreats.
  • Writing Accomplishments: Author of "Securely Attached," a book designed to help individuals forge lasting, loving relationships.
  • Family: Proud parent of three kids—two of them hung out in my uterus at the same time
  • Personal Journey: I had an insecure ambivalent attachment pattern until I dove deep into this work. Interestingly, I married someone with an avoidant pattern. Together, we put in the hard work to develop a secure attachment dynamic in our relationship.
  • Just For Fun:
    - Earrings and lipsticks? I can't get enough.
    - Team gummy candy all the way—sorry, chocolate lovers!

My goal is to make this journey as fun and stress-free as possible, by sharing all the amazing research and healing I've learned along the way.

I am so glad you are here.

Our fans show real results, from improved communication to stronger bonds.

“Your posts have helped me so much with how I parent my child. I have gained so much insight into my own behavior and actionable ways to modify it when communicating with my child.”

Joanna Aakyol

“You are the BEST thing that has happened to our family since having children. Thank you for sharing your knowledge so that my family could find its footing and thrive!”

Clarissa Gonzales

“I was constantly overwhelmed by my mother's advice and a little girl that needed my patience and compassion.  You are helping me EVERYDAY to be the Mom that I needed and the Mom that my heart tells me to be.  My connection with my daughter has never been closer.”

Sonya P

“But what you do is SIMPLIFY the information, it makes it easier to process and put into actions. I have been a muchhhh beter mother after listening to you!!”

Lay Laadi

“Eli’s posts help make me both a better mom and a better human. If either of those is a goal for you, follow her here immediately. You won’t regret it.”


“It's changing the way I parent and it reinforces the relationship and trauma work I've already been working on. It complements my efforts and it brings me so much relief knowing I am not alone in this and having frequent reminders so I don't forget what is important to me. Thank you so much Eli!”


“You are helping me setting my boundaries as a person, as a family of 4, and your suggestion on gentle parenting are inspiring.”


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