Raising Securely Attached Kids (USA TODAY Bestseller)
Stage-by-stage, connection-first parenting for real life.
A complete parenting roadmap—helping kids feel safe, seen, and soothed at every age.
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Hi, I’m Eli. I believe that connection is the magical ingredient to effective and fulfilling parenting.
Licensed therapist. Mom of three. Attachment nerd. I help you break cycles and build secure bonds—without shame, and without the fluff.
The short version of my story
My parents were not able to give me a secure attachment experience.
Not because they didn’t want to, but because they didn’t have the chance to learn about attachment or heal past traumas before they became parents. But midway through my childhood, my mom did something incredible, she made a U turn and started to transform her relational patterns through therapy. Her healing journey led to changes in her relational patterns and ultimately led to my own healing and decision to become a therapist.
In my work as a therapist it has become crystal clear that understanding attachment, and specifically secure attachment, is the most effective way to break generational cycles of disconnection.
Attachment science gives us language—and hope, that what happened in the past can be resolved and the future can become a place of deeper connection and relational security both for us and our kids.
Help you break your own family cycles, heal your story and nervous system responses, and inspire you to give your kids what every child deserves—to feel safe, seen, soothed, and secure in their relationship with you.
FEATURED IN:
Eli Harwood brings infectious-fun energy, vulnerability, and fresh perspectives without shaming or blaming.
Grounded in science, backed by experience
Clinical + Lived Expertise
Licensed therapist with 19+ years clinical experience. Also a mom of three—practicing presence over perfection daily.
Science Made Simple
I translate peer-reviewed attachment research into plain-language advice, connection rituals, and scripts that will help you build trust and connection with your kids.
Trusted & Endorsed
USA TODAY Bestseller and Child Psychology Award winner
— Community of 1.2M+ caregivers worldwide — Endorsed by experts like Dr. Daniel Siegel, M.D., Dr. Shefali Tsabury, and Dr. Allan N. Schore
Resources for Your Journey
Research unlocked with real-life tools you can actually use
My books turn big attachment research into everyday language you can use at home. Build bonds that help kids feel confident in their relationship with you and in themselves.
Whether you’re healing your own story, learning what to say in hard moments, or creating a culture of connection, these pages give you scripts, prompts, and practical steps that fit your real life.
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If this sounds like you, you’re not alone
Your brain goes blank in the exact moment you need words.
You worry gentle parenting means being a pushover (it doesn’t).
You’re trying to break the cycle you grew up with—but triggers still hijack you.
You want simple scripts you can remember when things get loud.
You want to repair better, not pretend perfection.
You wonder if your own childhood wounds are getting in the way of how you show up for your kids.
Parenting help that actually fits your life
Join the Secure Parenting Program today and give your kids the safe, seen, soothed, and secure bond they deserve.
Everything you’ve wanted to ask Eli (and a few you didn’t know you should).
You deserve straight answers before you trust someone with your family’s time and energy. This FAQ covers who I am, how I work, what’s included in my programs, and how to get help if you need it.
What the program is (and isn’t)
Working with me
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