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Chronic constant anger and irritation in your body is a sign that you are holding unresolved trauma in your nervous system.
Anger is our biological signal that we feel violated or neglected in a violating way. This experience when unresolved leads our nervous system to snap constantly in response to stimuli regardless of its severity.
The cure? Process those unresolved stories and find safe places to feel the grief and powerlessness inherent in them.
Avoid focusing too much on fairness when teaching kids, as it can create a belief that good behavior is always rewarded and bad behavior is always punished, leading to the dangerous belief that they deserve any trauma they experience, instead use relational motivation to guide them towards making good choices.
Learn how to navigate parenting with a partner who is not on the same page as you when it comes to attachment-focused parenting in this enlightening video that emphasizes the importance of starting with connection, collaboration, and modeling instead of trying to persuade or degrade your partner's way of doing things, and seeking support if your partner is abusive.