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What you feel about what you feel is a meta feeling. And it makes all the difference in whether or not you are able to release your feelings and complete the stress cycle.
Our meta feelings are primarily shaped in our attachment relationships, though they are also influenced by peers and the greater culture.
The best way to get yourself through tough times is to let yourself feel the emotions related to it and let go of any feelings about having those initial feelings. You feel. We all do. Let it out. With caring people. Feel relief.
Learn the benefits of playing make believe with your kids, how it helps their brains and your bond with them, and get fun ideas for make believe scenarios to try, including playing wild animals on the way to lunch and defending a castle against stinky underwear, in this insightful video.
In this video, you'll learn that there is no one right way to show yourself love, as there are many ways to nurture your body and soul, and the key is to listen to what your body and heart are telling you about what you need.
Avoid focusing too much on fairness when teaching kids, as it can create a belief that good behavior is always rewarded and bad behavior is always punished, leading to the dangerous belief that they deserve any trauma they experience, instead use relational motivation to guide them towards making good choices.