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I often have clients tell me that crying doesn't make them feel better, it makes them feel worse.
And they aren't wrong. When we are stuck in a despair mindset, it often brings us to tears, but they aren't relieving or releasing...they are hopeless and depressing.
But don't let despair tears stereotype all crying for you. Because a release of grief can be incredibly healing. When we grieve (esp with caring others), it allows our body to release some of the emotional pain from our traumas and losses so we can move forward.
This video discusses the importance of self-love as a radical stance in a world that often encourages self-sacrifice, and emphasizes how loving yourself is a necessity for taking care of your body and self in a world that won't always do that for you.
Watch this insightful video and discover how childhood anxiety and caretaker focus can hinder a person's ability to grow down into their more carefree and less responsible self, and why allowing children to enjoy the process of growing up is crucial to their development.
Avoid focusing too much on fairness when teaching kids, as it can create a belief that good behavior is always rewarded and bad behavior is always punished, leading to the dangerous belief that they deserve any trauma they experience, instead use relational motivation to guide them towards making good choices.