It is difficult to take the time to process and heal your childhood stories, and on top of that it can also feel difficult to believe it is necessary and not navel gazing.
But it IS necessary work if you want to raise children who are securely attached to you. The attachment research shows that when we reflect on our early relationships with our caregivers and process through the emotions related to those experiences, we clear the past insecurity to make way for present secure ways of relating.
When you care for your younger traumas or disconnections, you are also caring for your children.
As parents, we want to protect our children from harm, but threats of violence may not be the best way to do so. Instead, we can be a refuge and a barrier for our children, offering comfort and support in times of need.
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In this video, you'll learn about self-gaslighting, which is learned from attachment relationships where someone taught you to constantly question your body, reactions, and views on reality, and the importance of acknowledging the trauma and learning to trust your own needs.
Learn why idealization can lead to grandiose pressure and the dangers of love bombing in this insightful video on building trust and secure attachment in relationships.
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