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Responding to the Big Questions

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When a child asks you a question about a BIG or adult topic remember this:

1. Be honest

2. Be age appropriate

3. Answer in a way that conveys your role as someone who cares for them

It can feel overwhelming when kids ask questions about topics that we feel overwhelmed by. The key to having these moments and in connection instead of overwhelm is to remain calm, give them the amount of truth you can sense they are ready to handle, and always follow up the big conversations with the reassurance that you are there for them and they don't have to handle any big things alone.

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