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Self gaslighting is a phenomena that you learn from an attachment relationship where someone taught you to constantly question your body, your reactions, and your views on reality.
It is deeply disorienting and leads to painful anxiety and depression.
The process towards learning to trust yourself starts with acknowledging the trauma that came from the relationship (s) where you were mistreated and taught to sacrifice your own needs to please the person gaslighting you.
Then you get to radically shift from always questioning your needs to learning to trust them.
Learn how to regulate your emotions and offer calm and compassionate support to your child when they are upset, even if you experienced childhood trauma or lack of emotional support from your parents, in this insightful video that emphasizes the importance of parking your inner child in a safe place, attending to their needs, and returning to being the parent your child needs.
Avoid focusing too much on fairness when teaching kids, as it can create a belief that good behavior is always rewarded and bad behavior is always punished, leading to the dangerous belief that they deserve any trauma they experience, instead use relational motivation to guide them towards making good choices.
In this powerful video, learn how to differentiate between empathy and pity, and why cultivating empathy is essential for healing broken attachment relationships from childhood.