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Self gaslighting is a phenomena that you learn from an attachment relationship where someone taught you to constantly question your body, your reactions, and your views on reality.
It is deeply disorienting and leads to painful anxiety and depression.
The process towards learning to trust yourself starts with acknowledging the trauma that came from the relationship (s) where you were mistreated and taught to sacrifice your own needs to please the person gaslighting you.
Then you get to radically shift from always questioning your needs to learning to trust them.
Learn how to regulate your emotions and offer calm and compassionate support to your child when they are upset, even if you experienced childhood trauma or lack of emotional support from your parents, in this insightful video that emphasizes the importance of parking your inner child in a safe place, attending to their needs, and returning to being the parent your child needs.
In this video, you'll learn that the forgiveness process after abuse is not about reconciling with the abuser, but rather about untethering yourself from the abuse and reconciling with yourself, by grieving, acknowledging, releasing, and remembering who you are.
Supporting a trauma survivor's felt safety means being present with empathy and patience, providing a space of safety to help calm their dysregulation and offer them a secure and grounding attachment relationship.