Chronic constant anger and irritation in your body is a sign that you are holding unresolved trauma in your nervous system.
Anger is our biological signal that we feel violated or neglected in a violating way. This experience when unresolved leads our nervous system to snap constantly in response to stimuli regardless of its severity.
The cure? Process those unresolved stories and find safe places to feel the grief and powerlessness inherent in them.
Avoid focusing too much on fairness when teaching kids, as it can create a belief that good behavior is always rewarded and bad behavior is always punished, leading to the dangerous belief that they deserve any trauma they experience, instead use relational motivation to guide them towards making good choices.
In this powerful video, learn how to differentiate between empathy and pity, and why cultivating empathy is essential for healing broken attachment relationships from childhood.
Supporting a trauma survivor's felt safety means being present with empathy and patience, providing a space of safety to help calm their dysregulation and offer them a secure and grounding attachment relationship.