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Abusive relationships involve an incredible amount of responsibility projected onto the victim. You become so intertwined in your abuser's pain and past you feel like it's your job to fix them and heal them . But. You can't heal your abuser and continuing to try is only betraying your own healing.
This video discusses the importance of self-love as a radical stance in a world that often encourages self-sacrifice, and emphasizes how loving yourself is a necessity for taking care of your body and self in a world that won't always do that for you.
In this video, we learn how attachment experiences can affect the way we process trauma, with empathy and compassion being key to healing and preventing feelings of guilt, blame and shame that can linger long after an event has ended.
Supporting a trauma survivor's felt safety means being present with empathy and patience, providing a space of safety to help calm their dysregulation and offer them a secure and grounding attachment relationship.