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What you feel about what you feel is a meta feeling. And it makes all the difference in whether or not you are able to release your feelings and complete the stress cycle.
Our meta feelings are primarily shaped in our attachment relationships, though they are also influenced by peers and the greater culture.
The best way to get yourself through tough times is to let yourself feel the emotions related to it and let go of any feelings about having those initial feelings. You feel. We all do. Let it out. With caring people. Feel relief.
In this video, learn why telling your child to "use their words" during an emotional moment may not be effective and how to communicate non-verbally to support them in regulating their emotions.
Discover why harsh punishments and power and control tactics can create compliance in children through fear and dissociative shutdown, and how these patterns can lead to adult relationships based on power and control or deep self-worth wounds in this eye-opening and insightful video that encourages compassionate limit setting without instilling fear.
Supporting a trauma survivor's felt safety means being present with empathy and patience, providing a space of safety to help calm their dysregulation and offer them a secure and grounding attachment relationship.