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I often have clients tell me that crying doesn't make them feel better, it makes them feel worse.
And they aren't wrong. When we are stuck in a despair mindset, it often brings us to tears, but they aren't relieving or releasing...they are hopeless and depressing.
But don't let despair tears stereotype all crying for you. Because a release of grief can be incredibly healing. When we grieve (esp with caring others), it allows our body to release some of the emotional pain from our traumas and losses so we can move forward.
In this video, we learn how attachment experiences can affect the way we process trauma, with empathy and compassion being key to healing and preventing feelings of guilt, blame and shame that can linger long after an event has ended.
This inspiring video is a reminder to keep pushing forward and doing your best, no matter the obstacles you face.
Avoid focusing too much on fairness when teaching kids, as it can create a belief that good behavior is always rewarded and bad behavior is always punished, leading to the dangerous belief that they deserve any trauma they experience, instead use relational motivation to guide them towards making good choices.