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I often have clients tell me that crying doesn't make them feel better, it makes them feel worse.
And they aren't wrong. When we are stuck in a despair mindset, it often brings us to tears, but they aren't relieving or releasing...they are hopeless and depressing.
But don't let despair tears stereotype all crying for you. Because a release of grief can be incredibly healing. When we grieve (esp with caring others), it allows our body to release some of the emotional pain from our traumas and losses so we can move forward.
Avoid focusing too much on fairness when teaching kids, as it can create a belief that good behavior is always rewarded and bad behavior is always punished, leading to the dangerous belief that they deserve any trauma they experience, instead use relational motivation to guide them towards making good choices.
In this video, discover how our brain's instinct to tell stories is not only adaptive but also beneficial for our mental health, as it helps us process and move on from complex experiences.
Learn how to break the cycle of generational trauma and cultivate a secure attachment relationship between you and your child by doing the healing work that you can, trusting the next generation to keep it going.