Idealization is not kind. It's grandiose pressure. The only reason someone wants to meld their life with you before getting the chance to get to know you is because they feel desperate.
That love bombing can feel really nice at first, but remember to teach your kids that it is a setup. All idealization leads eventually to devaluation, because your humanness will appear and shatter their idealization of you.
The work of secure attachment involves taking the time to BUILD trust and get to know each other...not jumping into a deep end without knowing what lies under it.
.webp){kind=avatar}
In this video, you'll learn that an abusive mentality is one of the hardest addictions to kick, with only 5% of people who seek treatment making meaningful changes, due to the intertwined nature of childhood experiences, strong justifications for the behavior, and the need for vulnerability and accountability to heal.
.webp){kind=avatar}
In this video, the speaker discusses the confusion between respectful connections and ownership over women's bodies, and emphasizes the importance of teaching our children to be suspicious of aggressive behavior towards their bodies to distinguish safe and unsafe potential romantic partners.
.webp){kind=avatar}
This eye-opening video urges parents to teach their children about respecting boundaries around physical touch and affection, and emphasizes the importance of enthusiastic consent in building a healthier society.
%402x.svg){kind=icon}