When we want to be alone, it can come from different motivations. It can be an instinct to recharge (introversion) or an instinct to isolate in pain (avoidant/dismissive attachment style).
1. Honor introversion. Go get you some alone time and charge that battery!
2. Let go of the old avoidant pattern tho.. Heal the wounds beneath the insecure attachment response and learn to let people care for your pain with you.
If you didn't have a secure attachment style in childhood, you're not alone. Here are three phases of healing you can work through to change your patterns of relating and build new, secure relationships.
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Learn how to regulate your emotions and offer calm and compassionate support to your child when they are upset, even if you experienced childhood trauma or lack of emotional support from your parents, in this insightful video that emphasizes the importance of parking your inner child in a safe place, attending to their needs, and returning to being the parent your child needs.
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In this video, the presenter discusses two potential reasons for constantly feeling insecure in a romantic relationship and provides solutions for each, including moving on if the partner isn't right or putting in the work to internalize the love you have if you have an anxious preoccupied attachment style.
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