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What is Attachment Protest and Why is it Unhelpful as a Grownup?

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The attachment research calls the instinct to push when you are wanting to be close "protest" behavior.

In couples counseling I often call it sabotage.

You are hurt because you feel distant, but instead of walking closer to your sweetheart and asking for connection (and receiving when they try), you throw rocks at them (in the form of criticism or bad energy etc) and bat away the opportunities to reconnect.

The most effective way to bring your partner close is to share your desire to be close.

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