It is difficult to take the time to process and heal your childhood stories, and on top of that it can also feel difficult to believe it is necessary and not navel gazing.
But it IS necessary work if you want to raise children who are securely attached to you. The attachment research shows that when we reflect on our early relationships with our caregivers and process through the emotions related to those experiences, we clear the past insecurity to make way for present secure ways of relating.
When you care for your younger traumas or disconnections, you are also caring for your children.
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Learn how to regulate your emotions and offer calm and compassionate support to your child when they are upset, even if you experienced childhood trauma or lack of emotional support from your parents, in this insightful video that emphasizes the importance of parking your inner child in a safe place, attending to their needs, and returning to being the parent your child needs.
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This video offers insightful perspective and tools for healing from inherited attachment wounds, acknowledging the realities of our caregivers' patterns while breaking the cycle for future generations
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Avoid focusing too much on fairness when teaching kids, as it can create a belief that good behavior is always rewarded and bad behavior is always punished, leading to the dangerous belief that they deserve any trauma they experience, instead use relational motivation to guide them towards making good choices.
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