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It is difficult to take the time to process and heal your childhood stories, and on top of that it can also feel difficult to believe it is necessary and not navel gazing.
But it IS necessary work if you want to raise children who are securely attached to you. The attachment research shows that when we reflect on our early relationships with our caregivers and process through the emotions related to those experiences, we clear the past insecurity to make way for present secure ways of relating.
When you care for your younger traumas or disconnections, you are also caring for your children.
Supporting a trauma survivor's felt safety means being present with empathy and patience, providing a space of safety to help calm their dysregulation and offer them a secure and grounding attachment relationship.
In this video, we learn how attachment experiences can affect the way we process trauma, with empathy and compassion being key to healing and preventing feelings of guilt, blame and shame that can linger long after an event has ended.
In this video, you'll learn about the cycle of abuse, how it can affect your relationships, and a helpful strategy for finding peace without resorting to destructive patterns.