Contrary to the fables and myths of romance in our culture.. if someone says no or not now or I don't think so that doesn't mean try harder to get them to say yes....trying to motivate someone to be intimate is a product of the coercive mindset. A mindset that creates trauma for those on the receiving end.
If your sleeping beauty or Snow White is sleepy or asleep she doesn't need you to kiss her to wake her up she needs you to let her sleep so that she can feel functional during her day ..
If you can learn to resist the urge to pressure your partner for intimacy.. I promise the intimacy you will have together will be far far more meaningful and pleasurable for both of you.
True intimacy comes without anyone being convinced, guilted or pressured.
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In this video, we learn how attachment experiences can affect the way we process trauma, with empathy and compassion being key to healing and preventing feelings of guilt, blame and shame that can linger long after an event has ended.
Learn how to break the cycle of generational trauma and cultivate a secure attachment relationship between you and your child by doing the healing work that you can, trusting the next generation to keep it going.
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Learn about the two sources that drive the desire to always be around people, natural extraversion and trauma response, and how recognizing the latter can help you find rest in solitude and process past relationships in this insightful video.
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