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Abusive relationships involve an incredible amount of responsibility projected onto the victim. You become so intertwined in your abuser's pain and past you feel like it's your job to fix them and heal them . But. You can't heal your abuser and continuing to try is only betraying your own healing.
In this video, we learn how attachment experiences can affect the way we process trauma, with empathy and compassion being key to healing and preventing feelings of guilt, blame and shame that can linger long after an event has ended.
In this powerful video, learn how to differentiate between empathy and pity, and why cultivating empathy is essential for healing broken attachment relationships from childhood.
Avoid focusing too much on fairness when teaching kids, as it can create a belief that good behavior is always rewarded and bad behavior is always punished, leading to the dangerous belief that they deserve any trauma they experience, instead use relational motivation to guide them towards making good choices.