One step towards being more securely attached in your relationship is to see conflict as opportunity.
Every fight is a chance to learn something new and important about yourself or your partner or both. It's not about winning or losing, it's about discovery.
And if you name your fights after...it helps bring levity and laughter around the hard part of the fight. Plus you'll remember it easier which will help you not to keep recreating it....
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In this video, the speaker discusses the challenges of managing anger when recovering from a childhood where anger was out of control, but emphasizes that anger is a normal and necessary feeling, and our children need empathy and support to learn how to manage it, rather than being labeled as abusive. Additionally, the speaker suggests seeking care to separate past trauma responses from present situations for both yourself and your children's wellbeing.
Supporting a trauma survivor's felt safety means being present with empathy and patience, providing a space of safety to help calm their dysregulation and offer them a secure and grounding attachment relationship.
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In this video, learn three tips for navigating difficult moments in relationships, including acknowledging tension, expressing confidence in the relationship, and actively listening to the other person's perspective.
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