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It is our job as the grown ups to model healthy conflict resolution for our children.
Fighting dirty and being violent is not that.
Never having a disagreement in front of them is also not that.
Kids need to see us communicate and connect thru conflict so they can garner those same skills for their own relationships.
Model for them your own consent process, and help them deeply understand the nuance of desire
In this video, you'll learn that human beings are wired to co-regulate, and that words like "come here" or "I am here" used with gentleness and compassion can be deeply soothing and help our loved ones know that their emotional needs are not a burden to us.
Learn how to foster secure attachment with your child by being a consistently responsive and connection-focused parent, and don't beat yourself up for not being perfect - the important thing is to focus on repairing and staying dedicated to the relationship.