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Why it Can Feel Easier to be Kinder to Strangers than to Our Closest People

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Because we identify with our attachment loves (kids, spouses, parents, best friends etc) we are more likely to treat them the same way we treat ourselves.

If you find it easier to be kind and generous with strangers or acquaintances, it is likely about your own lack of self compassion, not something with your loves.

Try being more gentle with yourself and watch what happens with your instincts towards the people who matter most.

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