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Reminder that sometimes the meltdown goes viral. When that happens you aren't going to be able to meet everyone's needs at once. You focus instead on minimizing the damage. Keep yourself from losing it as much as you can and focus on getting to the next thing so everyone can shift gears.
Use compassion on the outside even if you too are viral on the inside.
Hang in there parents. It's a real sh*t show some days.
The most helpful way for a child to understand boundaries is to model it for them, and as parents, we should also honor some of our children's boundaries as well to protect connection and safety, not power.
Learn about the concept of Restraint Collapse and how children rely on their attachment relationship to express their emotions in this insightful video, which provides tips on how to offer compassion and a safe space for your kids to release their emotional tensions after holding it together all day.
Learn how to handle the endless "why" questions from your child by turning it into a time of imagination, allowing them to wonder and theorize about things, rather than just providing an answer, which can foster a sense of connection and curiosity.