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We all want our kids to grow into resilient adults...here are the three things they need from you to have a good chance at that outcome.
1) Normalizing and verbalizing their emotional responses.
2) Actively communicating your support as a secure base for their tender needs and distress feelings.
3) Teaching them the socially acceptable ways of coping and interacting with others.
Learn the power of modeling self-compassion to your kids, as it inspires authenticity and problem-solving, and helps them develop their own self-treatment based on how they see you treat yourself.
Learn how to regulate your emotions and offer calm and compassionate support to your child when they are upset, even if you experienced childhood trauma or lack of emotional support from your parents, in this insightful video that emphasizes the importance of parking your inner child in a safe place, attending to their needs, and returning to being the parent your child needs.
Learn how to foster secure attachment with your child by being a consistently responsive and connection-focused parent, and don't beat yourself up for not being perfect - the important thing is to focus on repairing and staying dedicated to the relationship.