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What if instead of trying to get the younger generations to do things the way we think they should, we trusted them to make the changes they see necessary?
In a culture that is so fixated on grasping for control, it's easy to get caught up in it and try to get our children to think like we do or see the world the way that we do.
But the true job of a parent is to be a safe haven and secure base that allows our children the confidence to explore the world fully and adventure beyond our own experiences. To learn MORE than we did and see MORE than we've seen.
Then each generation can do a little more to make the world and humanity better places to exist.
In this video, learn about the power of empathy when dealing with anger, but also be warned about the limits of empathy in the context of abusive mentalities, where anger is used to justify harmful behavior.
In this video, you'll learn that anger is not dangerous, but can be triggering due to past experiences, and that we need to teach children (and ourselves) how to feel and share anger safely, rather than shaming them for it, by helping them uncover and communicate the underlying need.
In this video, the speaker discusses time outs from a perspective based on attachment research, emphasizing the importance of taking breaks to help reset our brains when we are dysregulated and the need for calm co-regulation rather than isolating with shame or pain as a lesson, adding that the lesson we want to teach is that our bodies need breaks sometimes to calm down so our brains can make good, safe choices - and this lesson applies to marriages as well!