It is so important for all of us to remember how complex our attachment relationships are.
We all have unique natures that set off unique dynamics with our caregivers.
Sibling gaslighting often comes from the false belief that you can know what your sibling experienced because you were in the same home.
But the reality is that each unique kid is treated differently in each unique family system.
So if you have a sibling who feels different about their childhood than you do about yours, that doesn't necessarily mean that they are ungrateful or wrong, or idealizing your parents....they just had a different childhood than you.
As parents, we want to protect our children from harm, but threats of violence may not be the best way to do so. Instead, we can be a refuge and a barrier for our children, offering comfort and support in times of need.
Learn about the concept of Restraint Collapse and how children rely on their attachment relationship to express their emotions in this insightful video, which provides tips on how to offer compassion and a safe space for your kids to release their emotional tensions after holding it together all day.
Learn how to break the cycle of generational trauma and cultivate a secure attachment relationship between you and your child by doing the healing work that you can, trusting the next generation to keep it going.
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