When we want to be alone, it can come from different motivations. It can be an instinct to recharge (introversion) or an instinct to isolate in pain (avoidant/dismissive attachment style).
1. Honor introversion. Go get you some alone time and charge that battery!
2. Let go of the old avoidant pattern tho.. Heal the wounds beneath the insecure attachment response and learn to let people care for your pain with you.
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In this informative and practical video, learn how emotional flooding can disorient and lead us to push away those we need, and how to use the Letting go/Staying close method to support loved ones during these difficult moments by releasing pressure and standing back while staying open and supportive.
Supporting a trauma survivor's felt safety means being present with empathy and patience, providing a space of safety to help calm their dysregulation and offer them a secure and grounding attachment relationship.
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In this video, you'll learn that human beings are wired to co-regulate, and that words like "come here" or "I am here" used with gentleness and compassion can be deeply soothing and help our loved ones know that their emotional needs are not a burden to us.
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