When we want to be alone, it can come from different motivations. It can be an instinct to recharge (introversion) or an instinct to isolate in pain (avoidant/dismissive attachment style).
1. Honor introversion. Go get you some alone time and charge that battery!
2. Let go of the old avoidant pattern tho.. Heal the wounds beneath the insecure attachment response and learn to let people care for your pain with you.
Learn how to foster secure attachment with your child by being a consistently responsive and connection-focused parent, and don't beat yourself up for not being perfect - the important thing is to focus on repairing and staying dedicated to the relationship.
If you didn't have a secure attachment style in childhood, you're not alone. Here are three phases of healing you can work through to change your patterns of relating and build new, secure relationships.
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In this video, you'll learn that a securely attached young child expresses their distress, seeks proximity to their caregiver, and calms quickly, and that this pattern of express-seek-soothe can be seen throughout our lifespan, with teens seeking friends, adults seeking romantic partners or close friends, but always involving the freedom to have an emotional need, be close, and receive comfort at every stage of life.
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