If you weren't privileged to inherit a secure attachment style in your childhood, then you are in my club of people who earn/learn their secure attachment style.
Here's the three phases of healing you'll need to work thru...
1. Reflect: on your early attachment relationships and how they impacted you
2. Grieve: feel the feelings of loss and pain related to not having secure relationships to lean on and find confidence in.
3. Grow: change your patterns of relating and work to learn new ways of showing up in your close relationships.
Learn how to give an effective apology by understanding the impact of your actions and making a sincere effort to repair the relationship, rather than simply saying "I'm sorry”
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In this video, you'll learn that the path to finding and keeping secure love involves working through past attachments and understanding our learned patterns of love, which can free us to choose partners who truly love us in a different way than we may have been used to.
Supporting a trauma survivor's felt safety means being present with empathy and patience, providing a space of safety to help calm their dysregulation and offer them a secure and grounding attachment relationship.
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