Finding secure love can feel like an impossible task, especially if you grew up in an insecure home.
The path to finding and keeping secure love is about having been loved well, either growing up, or through a healing process.
When we learn to work through our past attachments and understand what we learned about love growing up, we are freed to choose partners that are truly loving and different than the patterns we used to get stuck in.
In this video, relationship expert explains how the instinct to push away when wanting to be close is called "protest" behavior in attachment research, but in couples counseling, it is often referred to as sabotage, and shares the most effective way to bring your partner close is to express your desire for connection.
Learn how to regulate your emotions and offer calm and compassionate support to your child when they are upset, even if you experienced childhood trauma or lack of emotional support from your parents, in this insightful video that emphasizes the importance of parking your inner child in a safe place, attending to their needs, and returning to being the parent your child needs.
The idea of toughening up your children to deal with the world only makes you their first bully, stripping them of their sense of belonging with you; treat your children with respect and connection so that they instinctively protect themselves from unkind and cruel treatment.