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Why don't we see more images of parents hugging their teens?
They don't stop needing us to be available and comforting.
Do they need us less often? Yes. Do they transfer some of their attachment needs to their peers? Yes.
But they meltdown and they feel strong things ALOT.
Help the world, open your arms for your teens with as much compassion and tenderness as you do for your toddlers.
Learn how to regulate your emotions and offer calm and compassionate support to your child when they are upset, even if you experienced childhood trauma or lack of emotional support from your parents, in this insightful video that emphasizes the importance of parking your inner child in a safe place, attending to their needs, and returning to being the parent your child needs.
Model for them your own consent process, and help them deeply understand the nuance of desire
Engage with your teen by giving them airtime and genuine curiosity to share their perspectives, allowing them to feel heard and seen, which will make them respect you more and see you as an ally in their maturing process.