Contrary to the fables and myths of romance in our culture.. if someone says no or not now or I don't think so that doesn't mean try harder to get them to say yes....trying to motivate someone to be intimate is a product of the coercive mindset. A mindset that creates trauma for those on the receiving end.
If your sleeping beauty or Snow White is sleepy or asleep she doesn't need you to kiss her to wake her up she needs you to let her sleep so that she can feel functional during her day ..
If you can learn to resist the urge to pressure your partner for intimacy.. I promise the intimacy you will have together will be far far more meaningful and pleasurable for both of you.
True intimacy comes without anyone being convinced, guilted or pressured.
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In this video, learn how the care and responsiveness children receive from their caregivers can impact their ability to recognize and communicate their needs as adults, and how healing from a lack of emotional support in childhood involves acknowledging the wound, speaking your needs, and committing to giving yourself the care you deserve.
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Learn how to strengthen your relationship and become more securely attached by reframing conflict as an opportunity to discover new things about yourself and your partner, and find out how naming your fights can bring levity and help you avoid repeating them in this insightful video.
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Avoid focusing too much on fairness when teaching kids, as it can create a belief that good behavior is always rewarded and bad behavior is always punished, leading to the dangerous belief that they deserve any trauma they experience, instead use relational motivation to guide them towards making good choices.
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