If you are highly sensitive or you grew up in trauma or without secure attachment, you want to be careful not to overcorrect with your kids.
Because you didn't feel supported and regulated, you might feel anxious about your kids not feeling that way with you and so drive it home too hard.
Make sure to give yourself space and time to process your past pains so they don't get in the way of accurately reading your kid's needs.
.webp){kind=avatar}
In this video, the speaker discusses the challenges of managing anger when recovering from a childhood where anger was out of control, but emphasizes that anger is a normal and necessary feeling, and our children need empathy and support to learn how to manage it, rather than being labeled as abusive. Additionally, the speaker suggests seeking care to separate past trauma responses from present situations for both yourself and your children's wellbeing.
.webp){kind=avatar}
Teaching healthy conflict resolution to our children means modeling it for them, which requires communicating and connecting through conflict without fighting dirty or being violent.
In this video, the speaker emphasizes the importance of attuning to children's inner world to build a secure attachment and suggests occasionally checking in with kids about their needs for love and affection, particularly during developmental leaps, to ensure that the love we give them is getting through in the way we intend it to.
%402x.svg){kind=icon}