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A huge component of a secure attachment relationship between parent and child is a parent's ability to accept who their child is. When we accept our children, we teach them to accept themselves which leads to a rich inner confidence and resilience in a world that will not always accept them.
There is nature (who your child is) and nurture (how your responses to who they are makes them feel about it)
Learn how to overcome compassion fatigue and repair your relationship with your kids by owning your failure, offering delayed compassion, and starting the dance of connection again in this powerful video.
Avoid focusing too much on fairness when teaching kids, as it can create a belief that good behavior is always rewarded and bad behavior is always punished, leading to the dangerous belief that they deserve any trauma they experience, instead use relational motivation to guide them towards making good choices.
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