Kids often struggle with transitions and going to school is one of the most common.
Because they are having to shift modes and mindsets AND separate from us, the process of feeling willing to go and get ready can be emotional some days.
In my house Mondays are markedly the hardest.
Remember to hold the boundary, make sure there isn't an underlying need to be addressed, offer comfort and then ride the wave of emotion until the calm settles and you can get moving.
If you don't have enough time, you may have to make compromises (yes you can wear the dirty shirt, or eat cereal in the car etc) ,but stay compassionate even if you have to push to get to the next phase.
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In this video, the speaker discusses time outs from a perspective based on attachment research, emphasizing the importance of taking breaks to help reset our brains when we are dysregulated and the need for calm co-regulation rather than isolating with shame or pain as a lesson, adding that the lesson we want to teach is that our bodies need breaks sometimes to calm down so our brains can make good, safe choices - and this lesson applies to marriages as well!
Learn the power of modeling self-compassion to your kids, as it inspires authenticity and problem-solving, and helps them develop their own self-treatment based on how they see you treat yourself.
Learn how to handle the endless "why" questions from your child by turning it into a time of imagination, allowing them to wonder and theorize about things, rather than just providing an answer, which can foster a sense of connection and curiosity.
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