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Lots of misinformation around about attachment. It isn't about breastfeeding and bed sharing. It's about feeling soothed and regulated in proximity to close figures in your life.
If you don't have a secure attachment growing up, you usually struggle to feel secure with others as an adult.
But an insecure attachment style is not a life long sentence.
If you put in the time to reflect, grieve and grow ...you can earn a secure attachment and heal and move forward.
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Learn the power of modeling self-compassion to your kids, as it inspires authenticity and problem-solving, and helps them develop their own self-treatment based on how they see you treat yourself.
The idea of toughening up your children to deal with the world only makes you their first bully, stripping them of their sense of belonging with you; treat your children with respect and connection so that they instinctively protect themselves from unkind and cruel treatment.
Discover how to differentiate between the instinct to recharge and the instinct to isolate in pain, and learn how to honor your introversion while also healing the wounds beneath an avoidant attachment response in this insightful video.