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Reminder that sometimes the meltdown goes viral. When that happens you aren't going to be able to meet everyone's needs at once. You focus instead on minimizing the damage. Keep yourself from losing it as much as you can and focus on getting to the next thing so everyone can shift gears.
Use compassion on the outside even if you too are viral on the inside.
Hang in there parents. It's a real sh*t show some days.
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