Three tips for navigating the tricky moments and conversations that happen in every relationship....
1. You can acknowledge the tension and dynamics before you are ready to solve them...sometimes just acknowledging disconnection relieves the bigness of it.
2. Communicate your confidence in your relationship and your ability to figure it out when the time is right. "This is hard but I believe in us and know we will figure it out together".
3. Take a copious amount of time to actively listen to the other person's perspective and needs. Do this with an open heart and body state. You don't have to agree to truly hear someone.
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In this video, learn why it's important to focus on soothing and supporting kids' emotions before trying to teach them, as strong emotions take energy away from the brain's thinking and processing areas, and how you can use co-regulation and language to help them grow once they've calmed down. Remember to "Connect before you correct," as Dr. Karyn Purvis said.
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In this video, you'll learn that a securely attached young child expresses their distress, seeks proximity to their caregiver, and calms quickly, and that this pattern of express-seek-soothe can be seen throughout our lifespan, with teens seeking friends, adults seeking romantic partners or close friends, but always involving the freedom to have an emotional need, be close, and receive comfort at every stage of life.
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In this video, you'll learn that because we identify with our attachment loves, we are more likely to treat them the same way we treat ourselves, and that being more gentle with ourselves can lead to more kindness and generosity towards the people who matter most.
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