Finding secure love can feel like an impossible task, especially if you grew up in an insecure home.
The path to finding and keeping secure love is about having been loved well, either growing up, or through a healing process.
When we learn to work through our past attachments and understand what we learned about love growing up, we are freed to choose partners that are truly loving and different than the patterns we used to get stuck in.
The idea of toughening up your children to deal with the world only makes you their first bully, stripping them of their sense of belonging with you; treat your children with respect and connection so that they instinctively protect themselves from unkind and cruel treatment.
In this video, the speaker emphasizes the importance of attuning to children's inner world to build a secure attachment and suggests occasionally checking in with kids about their needs for love and affection, particularly during developmental leaps, to ensure that the love we give them is getting through in the way we intend it to.
A message to all fathers: keep going with your efforts to connect with your children because they desperately need to see what a healthy, connected, caring male looks like, and it will create a secure attachment that fosters resilience.
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