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We all want our kids to grow into resilient adults...here are the three things they need from you to have a good chance at that outcome.
1) Normalizing and verbalizing their emotional responses.
2) Actively communicating your support as a secure base for their tender needs and distress feelings.
3) Teaching them the socially acceptable ways of coping and interacting with others.
The difference between calm and gentle teaching and permissiveness when addressing problematic behavior in children can be confusing, but punishing a child for their mistakes does not teach them emotional and behavioral maturity; instead, being respectful and patient in drawing boundaries and limits is more effective in teaching children the right way to handle difficult situations.
Learn how to overcome compassion fatigue and repair your relationship with your kids by owning your failure, offering delayed compassion, and starting the dance of connection again in this powerful video.
In this video, the speaker discusses how our culture tends to attribute behaviors and motivations to people's private parts, and proposes the term "Overgenitalization" to help us understand that violence and nurture do not come from a person's reproductive body parts, but rather from the environments and social experiences they are raised in.