If you are highly sensitive or you grew up in trauma or without secure attachment, you want to be careful not to overcorrect with your kids.
Because you didn't feel supported and regulated, you might feel anxious about your kids not feeling that way with you and so drive it home too hard.
Make sure to give yourself space and time to process your past pains so they don't get in the way of accurately reading your kid's needs.
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The myth that comforting your child will "spoil" them is not only emotionally harmful but also creates an altered brain state that leads to higher levels of stress and mental illness in adulthood, giving them compassion and comfort will only help them develop a healthier brain function.
A message to all fathers: keep going with your efforts to connect with your children because they desperately need to see what a healthy, connected, caring male looks like, and it will create a secure attachment that fosters resilience.
Discover which of the 4 attachment styles, represented by different animals, resonates with you the most when dealing with emotional distress in this thought-provoking video.
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