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The Goal of Parenting

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Reminder that if we want our kids to be secure, well-regulated and resilient, we aren't trying to teach them to need nothing from anyone (independence ), we are trying to teach them how to effectively live in community and how to have close attachment relationships (interdependence). 

Human beings thrive when we are in positive supportive, mutual relationships. 

If your kids need your help (especially in big emotional moments), you are not creating dependence when you support them, you are creating trust. 

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