Idealization is not kind. It's grandiose pressure. The only reason someone wants to meld their life with you before getting the chance to get to know you is because they feel desperate.
That love bombing can feel really nice at first, but remember to teach your kids that it is a setup. All idealization leads eventually to devaluation, because your humanness will appear and shatter their idealization of you.
The work of secure attachment involves taking the time to BUILD trust and get to know each other...not jumping into a deep end without knowing what lies under it.
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In this video, the speaker discusses the confusion between respectful connections and ownership over women's bodies, and emphasizes the importance of teaching our children to be suspicious of aggressive behavior towards their bodies to distinguish safe and unsafe potential romantic partners.
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Learn how to navigate parenting with a partner who is not on the same page as you when it comes to attachment-focused parenting in this enlightening video that emphasizes the importance of starting with connection, collaboration, and modeling instead of trying to persuade or degrade your partner's way of doing things, and seeking support if your partner is abusive.
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In this video, learn how raising securely attached children can protect them in many ways, but also make them vulnerable to manipulation, and discover how to equip your kids with the knowledge of identifying abuse and healthy relationships.
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