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Idealization is not kind. It's grandiose pressure. The only reason someone wants to meld their life with you before getting the chance to get to know you is because they feel desperate.
That love bombing can feel really nice at first, but remember to teach your kids that it is a setup. All idealization leads eventually to devaluation, because your humanness will appear and shatter their idealization of you.
The work of secure attachment involves taking the time to BUILD trust and get to know each other...not jumping into a deep end without knowing what lies under it.
This eye-opening video urges parents to teach their children about respecting boundaries around physical touch and affection, and emphasizes the importance of enthusiastic consent in building a healthier society.
Self-hatred is a product of insecure attachment and other traumas, but the first step towards self-love is to grieve and open up to the pain present in your attachment relationships and to see yourself in a new light.
In this video, learn how teaching children about body autonomy can protect them from unwanted touch and help them understand when it's okay to play and show affection.