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Teaching Kids the Difference Between Insults and Feedback

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We want our kids to be able to take accountability for their actions but also be empowered enough to stand up for their needs and have boundaries with people who are bullying or mistreating them.

When someone is upset at them or with them, use it as an opportunity to teach them the difference between insults and feedback.

We want our kids to guard themselves from insults, but openly receive feedback.

Teaching them the difference will make all the difference.

Insults are aimed at their personhood (I don't like you)

Feedback is aimed at the behavior (I don't like what you did)

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