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Today is a good day to spend some time playing make believe with your kids. It helps their brains process information about things they are experiencing or thinking about AND it is bonding.
I used to dread it. Because it didn't come naturally to me. But as I have learned to let go and dive in, I have found it so impactful for my kids and healing for my own little self.... If that's true for you too, check out the show Bluey (on Disney Plus, Hulu, Amazon and YouTube) and take notes!
One of my twins has a heart condition so we play make believe echocardiogram a lot and it really helps her process the experience and prepare for the next one.
If nothing else, pretend to be wild animals on your way to eat lunch (they will eat more!) Or on your way to brush your ferocious teeth (watch them comply easily!)
Play in ways that light them up (pokemon? peasants in medieval times? Frogs? talking trees? Whatever they want!)
Make believe is not only seriously fun for kids, it's seriously good for their brain and your relationship with them.
Onwards to pink and purple ponies defending a castle against stinky underwear (aka helping your kids put their dirty clothes into their laundry baskets!)
The video suggests using playfulness as a powerful tool when dealing with toddler refusal and that it is more effective than threats, punishment, or intimidation as it guides, influences, and builds trust while keeping you calm to prevent triggering more resistance.
In this video, you'll learn that a securely attached young child expresses their distress, seeks proximity to their caregiver, and calms quickly, and that this pattern of express-seek-soothe can be seen throughout our lifespan, with teens seeking friends, adults seeking romantic partners or close friends, but always involving the freedom to have an emotional need, be close, and receive comfort at every stage of life.
In this video, learn how parents can positively influence their children by taking responsibility for their own nervous system and modeling calmness, which can lead to better parenting choices and improved relationships, ultimately creating a positive impact on children's behavior and wellbeing.