When we want to be alone, it can come from different motivations. It can be an instinct to recharge (introversion) or an instinct to isolate in pain (avoidant/dismissive attachment style).
1. Honor introversion. Go get you some alone time and charge that battery!
2. Let go of the old avoidant pattern tho.. Heal the wounds beneath the insecure attachment response and learn to let people care for your pain with you.
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Learn how to support your child when they feel jealous with these 3 essential steps - empathize, regulate, and guide - to help them understand and cope with this normal and complex emotion, in this insightful video.
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Learn how contempt in relationships often stems from shame and how to address the root cause of contempt by addressing the underlying shame through vulnerability and open communication with your partner or attachment figures in this insightful and practical video.
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In this video, relationship expert explains how the instinct to push away when wanting to be close is called "protest" behavior in attachment research, but in couples counseling, it is often referred to as sabotage, and shares the most effective way to bring your partner close is to express your desire for connection.
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