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Is it Extroversion or a Preoccupied Attachment Pattern?

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The drive to always be around people can come from two different sources...

1. A natural extraversion that drives you to get energy by being with people

2. A trauma response that developed in relationship to unpredictable early caregivers and an ensuing fear that people are going to leave or give up on you...

Or both.

If number 2 sounds right to you (especially in romantic relationships), that's a good indicator that your heart needs some space to process your early relationships and understand how they impacted you to make room for new ways of finding rest in solitude and space from others.

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