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Q and A with the brilliant Alicia Malnati! @aliciahmalnati
Learning can be hard and the urge to give up is a human one...here are three things you can do to help your children love learning for the sake of learning...
1. Give goals that are challenging (novel) but attained
2. Teach that effort is at the heart of all mastery
3. Praise tactics not traits...say "I love how you did x or y or z" instead of saying "you're so smart or talented" which makes it scarier to try new things ("if I fail this task then I might not be smart or talented)
Teaching healthy conflict resolution to our children means modeling it for them, which requires communicating and connecting through conflict without fighting dirty or being violent.
The idea of toughening up your children to deal with the world only makes you their first bully, stripping them of their sense of belonging with you; treat your children with respect and connection so that they instinctively protect themselves from unkind and cruel treatment.
A message to all fathers: keep going with your efforts to connect with your children because they desperately need to see what a healthy, connected, caring male looks like, and it will create a secure attachment that fosters resilience.